Last week I wrote about how my parenting abilities were questioned because I told my daughter about Santa Claus. And many of you remarked about how calmly I handled the situation.
But lets discuss the calm part. Because you know I’m not always calm and laid back in my reactions to things.
But in this particular instance I was rather calm, but it was more due to shock. I was in shock that someone would equate me telling my daughter about Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy to being a lie that would cause my daughter to no longer trust anything I said. In my actual logical and analytical mind, this was ridiculous theory. Every child needs imagination and whimsy, and frankly. It’s ok to believe that there are things that are just good in the world. And there are times we need to believe in the unknown.
This year my daughter spearheaded a National Honor Society project where they collected art supplies and other small items and made shoeboxes that were delivered to kids in a shelter. To me, that’s a bunch of kids just trying to make some kids have a better day. Isn’t that the spirit of Santa Claus?
But the other reason I remained calm…
See, at that time, I was the only member of the group that had children. I didn’t confront the woman because I didn’t know how the other members felt. I was a little scared to defend myself more passionately. I erred on the side of quiet. I simply told the accuser that I was doing what I thought was best for my child in that particular situation. I was carrying on a tradition that had been through my family, my friends. For the most part we were fairly well adjusted adults. And none of us thought our parents were bad people to have told us these things.
But what did other people think?
What did people without children think?
So I stayed relatively, uncharacteristically quiet.
But I do wonder why people need to comment negatively about how others choose to live their lives, parent their children. Because when you think about it, is there a universal right answer to every situation? Is there only one way to do something?