My Daughter is taking her college deferment rather well. When I remarked on this she simply said “Well- when your classmates, even the ones with better scores and averages than me, all get deferred, it makes it easy.” She smiled and continued “Plus- it’s only strike two. I get one more swing.’
When my daughter began T-ball at four, her first competitive activity, I told her that first day: “Never look at the last pitch. Go down swinging.”
For thirteen years she has waited to hear the fat lady sing- and she has not sung yet… She has sent out a plethora of college applications to other schools. And she has approached teachers and mentors to write additional recommendation letters to add to her deferred application. She is working on a list of accomplishments she’s had since her original application went out on November first. Never say die.
Perseverence. Persistence. Those are my daughters best qualities. She is adept at picking herself up and dusting herself off and getting on with it.
But this particular situation has a finite end. On March 29, if this school rejects her, she will, hopefully, have a few other schools to consider. She will cease trying to get into this school. She will move on. She will no longer try.
So here’s my question. We all agree that attitude and perseverance will get you far in life.
Is there a time when you should give up?
Is there a point where you have to face reality and move on?
Let’s think about relationships: How long do you continue in a relationship that isn’t fulfilling? If you’ve tried counseling and read books and done what you can to get to a better relationship place, yet it still isn’t working, when do you decide to give up?
What if you’re in a job where you know you’ve reached your limit? The promotion just isn’t going to happen. The pay raise is not going to materialize. When do you pull the plug and start job hunting?
The HGTV show “Love it of List It” is based on one person wanting to stay in their present house and their partner wanting to move. After renovations are completed the couple decides whether or not they should move- what makes them decide if they can weather it out in the old place, or move into more appropriate digs?
When is it OK to give up?