Have you ever played the board game “Say Anything”? It’s a favorite in our house for family game night. Basically, someone asks a question, and the other players pick what they think the reader will answer. Then the reader chooses which answer is most correct. When faced with LA trivia so to speak, my Husband knows me pretty well. When given the question- “If you could start again, what occupation would you have?” Husband knows that the correct answer to that question, for me, would be “FBI Profiler”. Yes- you heard it hear first- if I was entering college, I would take the necessary steps to become a profiler (not a writer as you all may have thought). He knows my favorite dessert (mille crepe cake from Lady M bakery), and that pink is my favorite color. We have had many long conversations in our years together, but just because he knows the LA trivia file, does he know me best?
When discussing relationships a few weeks ago, Leslie talked about who knows you better, your friends or you significant other. And while it’s true that my Husband knows the facts, are facts the only thing that goes into “knowing” someone?
Last week I most definitely woke up on the wrong side of 50. I was out of sorts. Husband- well- he did not notice a thing. Daughter though- she was all over me. She knew within a minute of talking to me that not all was right in my world. She was able to read my body language and facial expression, and I guess interpret what I was actually thinking behind the glib words that I had thrown out that morning. So, while she might not know all the facts about me, she can definitely read my moods better. Does this mean that she “knows” me better?
I have a friend “G”. I called her a witch last week. (yes- witch with a “W”) and I meant it in the best of ways. We were having a simple, pleasant text conversation about the colleges our daughters are applying to and her kitchen renovation. And then she asked a question- basic question, but it was exactly the thing on my mind (and needless to say it had .nothing to do with kitchens or colleges). I said “How did you know I was thinking about that?” and she wrote back “LOL. I woke up this morning and thought that. Figured I’d ask while we were chatting.” So, does her intuition about me show that she knows me best?
What do we mean when we ask “Who knows me best?”? Is it facts, is it sense of mood, or is it just knowing without saying a word? Does it just depend on who the person is, as some are more emotionally connected or more intuitive by nature? When you say you “know” someone, what do you mean by that?
The people in my inner circle- I think I know them well, but I admit, some I know better factually, while others I just connect with on an emotional level. I’m not sure what the real difference is. I’m not even sure if there is a difference. But I guess what really matters is the connection that we forge. And maybe different relationships are supposed to be on different levels…
OK- I’m throwing this over to you: Who knows you best? Family, friends, partner?