You all know that my daughter is in the process of applying to college. And some of you may know that college marketing is huge. Many colleges hold recruiting events in NYC and the immediate suburbs, and my daughter has been attending them when she is interested.
Recently, my Daughter received an invite to a school that is high on her list. The event was scheduled for a Monday at 630 in midtown Manhattan. My daughter had a tennis match that same day, which ended at 6pm. Her tennis match was in another borough, and quite possibly as far from midtown Manhattan as possible.
My daughter doesn’t miss anything. She hasn’t had a sick day from school since 3rd grade. She is also never late to anything. She asked me- “Should I miss the tennis match? Or should I be late to the event?” I told her that her first responsibility was to the team. She is both a starter and Co Captain.
She listened to me, won her match, and made it to the event about 15 minutes late. She was there for the lion share of the presentation and got to chat with alumnae.
When I related this story to someone else, they said she should have blown off the match, because the college thing was more important. They thought of it as a make or break moment for the college admission process. I thought that if they don’t want my daughter because she’s 15 minutes late for a dog and pony show because she was honoring her commitment to her team, then it probably wasn’t the right school for her.
So I ask of you today, how do you assess a priority? If you have two things at the same time, what factors go into your decision making process? How do you determine what is more important?
One of my Momism’s is “90% of success is showing up.” I have always stressed the importance of not letting people down, that when you sign up for something, you commit. But are there times when it’s OK to bail?
So, what are your thoughts? How do handle the double/triple commitment thing?