The following are courtesy of dictionary.com:
Planning- the process of making plans for something
Micromanaging- control every part (however small) of an enterprise or activity
A few weeks ago, Claudette and I got into a discussion of planning vs. micromanaging, and if the two are mutually exclusive. Are planners, by nature, destined to control everything they touch?
I admit, I like to be in control- I like to lay out a 10 step plan, and list all the incidentals. I plan out contingencies. But, I am also the one who performs these steps. If I need something done, I really on myself. Does this make me a micro manager, or does it make me self sufficient? True, I am in control of every detail, but it’s my project- if I’m responsible, then shouldn’t I take responsibility for making sure whatever I’m doing is done correctly, so my end result is what I want?
Let’s change the variable: I write a very specific list as to what needs to be done, and I hand it off to other people (husband and daughter) to perform. If I expect them to follow my list to the letter, and not let them have any say, then I would say that would make me a micromanager…
So- is being a micromanager dependent on who you expect to follow your rules?
As I just mentioned rules, let’s talk about house rules. I have a rule that my family must eat at least three meals together as a family, per week (exceptions are when my Husband is traveling) Does having this rule make me a micromanager, or am I a parent trying to make sure her family stays in touch with one another?
If I have a list of behaviors that I expect my daughter to follow (eat healthy, don’t smoke, etc) am I a micromanager or a parent. I don’t clean my daughters room, I don’t do her homework, but I do expect her to empty the dishwasher and feed the pets. Is assigning her household tasks a parental right, or am I managing her?
We are inviting friends to our roofdeck this Friday. They are not going to be in our apartment, but in case of rain, our place must be in an acceptable state. Now, I know what I deem acceptable: is my need to have things done a certain way, and me handing my husband a list of tasks that must be accomplished, qualify as micromanaging? Or is it just that I’m more aware of which areas of the apartment need to be looked after?
Think about your own habits: are you a micromanager or a planner? Both or Neither? How do you define the concepts?