As I’ve told you before, I’m a lousy Words With Friends player. My Husband beats me 7 out of 10 games, and I have a much larger vocabulary. I also have a winning record against in him in just about every game except pool…
So why am I monumentally bad at WWF?
Because I play a long game, and my Husband plays a short game. He looks at the board the way it is at that moment, he looks at the letters in his deck, and he makes a move. I look at my letters, look at the board, and then I try to “save” letters if I think they will be better used three moves from now. I always think about how many points I may get instead of what I can get. This is not how to win at WWF- winning WWF requires being in the moment, playing the short game.
But what about life? What works better: playing the short game where you live in the moment, or the long game, playing with the future in mind?
Ideally, we should be all be alternatively playing the short and long game: figuring out when each different path is needed. But do switch up looking at things, or do we find our method and just go with it every time? Now that I’ve recognized why I am not a successful WWF player, I’ve been winning slightly more often, but I can’t break the old habits that easily- I still find myself plotting three steps ahead. Why is it so hard to break the pattern?
I am a careful planner- I think ahead to what I’m going to make for dinner, I plan vacations, I plan how to spend my free time. No one would ever label me spontaneous. And honestly, I can’t understand the mindset of those who don’t: one of my friends went on a vacation last year, by plane, and they didn’t reserve anything at the place they went to: not a car, not a hotel room, nothing. Now it worked out for them, but they waited in lines, had trouble finding a room at a reasonable price and found it hard to do anything because it turns out there was some sort of festival in town that week, and things were reserved in advance. I could not operate like that. Ever. The minute I had to go to three places looking f or a room at the Inn I would have been crazed. Some people aren’t- some people just go with the flow…
And what about relationships? I know plenty of people who are dreaming of their wedding while on a first date, while others are thinking of the date as a one time deal, maybe it will go to two?
Job strategy. Do you vie for the corner office at the company you’re at? Or do you job hop, hoping to find greener pastures at different companies?
Do you buy a fixer house and have long range plans with how you want to fix it, or do you flip properties as your needs change?
Child rearing. When you parent, are you thinking of just getting through the year and the stage, or are you thinking about long term effects for your child?
So what do you all think? What is better- plotting steps out with the future in mind, or just doing what you need to get by in the moment? Can you successfully merge the two trains of thought, or do you find yourself predominantly leaning towards one side? Inquiring minds want to know…