Trust. Do we want to be able to trust our partner? Now without doing a research study, or taking a poll, I’ll venture to say that trust is something the majority of people want in a their relationship. Without trust, there can be no intimacy. Without intimacy there is no relationship. Does that seem reasonable?
Ok. What if you begin to doubt your partner?
Though infidelity immediately leaps to mind, trust can rear it’s ugly head in any number of ways. I know a couple who had issues over finances: partner A no longer trusted partner B with anything money. So, for today’s exercise, we’re going to go with financial trust.
Money is a tough issue- how do you divide and use your assets? I see this on HGTV all the time- one is a spender and one is a bit more frugal. What if the frugal one starts to think that the spender is spending too much? What if the spender is hiding purchases from the frugal? Does a little layer of mistrust seep in? Does a whole level of mistrust push its way in?
What happens if one partner doesn’t trust the other?
Is a relationship over the minute Partner A does not trust Partner B?
Does this diminishing, or deterioration of trust ruin the intimacy, thus eroding the relationship?
Can you be in a relationship with someone you don’t trust?
Now let’s switch it a little- what if it’s little things? What if you partner likes the house colder than you do and lowers the thermostat, but says they didn’t. Is this a small nothing, or is it a big deal?
Can you regain trust in someone? Does time and communication (and perhaps therapy) help heal the wound of mistrust?
I know- I know. It’s like I’m doing a survey, which I sort of said I didn’t need. But I am wondering if a little inkling of mistrust isn’t what ends up killing relationships. Maybe irreconcilable differences is really a way of saying, “I have no proof, but my relationship didn’t smell right anymore.”
How much does trust, or lack of, effect (affect?) your relationship?
Let’s end the week with a good philosophical discussion!!