Here’s a sample of things that I like:
- indie, art house movies about esoteric subjects
- big, thrilling blockbusters
- 19th century British Literature
- silly love stories
- 10 course tasting menus with wine pairings
- cheeseburger, fries and diet coke (no ice)
These are all things that make up who I am.
Here’s some random comments that people have said to me:
- How could you go to Graceland? It’s so tacky.
- Opera? Why would you want to see a bunch of people scream in foreign languages?
- I don’t understand how you can enjoy music produced after 1980- it’s all junk.
- I don’t know how you can call this a good restaurant- a good restaurant serves a pieces of chicken parm the size of your arm
- I would never spend time in a museum. My toddler could do that modern art stuff.
- TV? You watch TV? I don’t even own a TV.
- Why should I go to a movie with subtitles? Who wants to read a movie?
- Food served out of a truck? I would never.
Conclusion: I am too high brow for some, too low brow for others. What this also means is that I am judged, unfairly, by many.
When you hear that someone has a hobby or enjoys something, like it or not, you are going to make an assumption about that person. You are going to think specific things based on what they like or do not like, do or do not do. No matter how evolved we think we have become we still label, categorize and judge. We still sort people into groups.
So here’s my message for today: Do the things that make you happy. Don’t judge others by the things that make them happy. Accept that people have habits and interests that you may not like. Don’t expect that person to change the things that they like, or the things that they do. A person’s habits, likes and interests are the things that make up that person, make them special and make them unique. Do not assume that because someone likes to see plays that they are overly intellectual and snooty. Do not assume that a person who likes a musical with catchy lyrics is trite and shallow. Do not assume that someone who likes to go to live theater is pretentious. Don’t think that a person who doesn’t see live theater is a Neanderthal. Don’t assign a personality trait based on one small detail of a person. Find out all the little things that go into a personality, and then still don’t judge. Accept that all people are different and all people are the same.
In short: Don’t Assume