I am often quick to anger. Little things annoy me. I’ve been working on correcting this problem, and I really feel I’m getting better. Let’s start with an example.
On Sunday mornings, I take a 9:15 body conditioning class (weights). I love this class and the teacher- you sort of need to if you consistently go to a Sunday morning class. Now T usually enters the classroom at exactly 9:15, and starts barking out orders as he sets up the music. We’re used to this. A few weeks ago, T was late. Five minutes. 10 minutes. He’s never that late, and the rare times he can’t make class he always gets a sub. People in the class started complaining. One woman was really really going nuts. Cursing him out. Stomping her feet. Whining.
Don’t get me wrong: I was a little perturbed. But this was not a normal occurrence at all. I couldn’t bring myself to get that mad. In my mind, things happen. You can’t control everything.
Twenty minutes late. Half the class was gone, including whiny stomper. I was still there, doing my own weights workout. Biceps, triceps, shoulders. Doing the exercises I wanted to do that day. At 9:40, my patience was rewarded. T showed up. Turns out, the NYC half marathon was that day: street closures were massive. He had trouble getting downtown to the gym. Even though we only had a half hour, he gave an awesome class, and I felt I got a really good workout. Score one for me and my good attitude.
However, I was not totally nice and patient at the gym that morning. When I entered the class to set up my station, I went to get a mat. Someone had draped their coat on the rack that holds the mats. The mats are a bit of a pain to grab under optimal circumstances (ie- nothing on top of them) so I was just a tad annoyed (I may have stomped and whined)
When class was finished I began to put my equipment away. Bench, weights, mat…..When I went to put the mat away, the errant coat was still there on the rack. I was a little peeved and a lot passive aggressive. I put my mat over the coat. The person behind me put her mat over my mat, over the coat. And so on, until you couldn’t even see the coat.
So take away the point that I gave myself. I ended the day flat.
I’m still a work in progress.