We’ve been having something of a cold snap in the northeast. I honestly don’t know when NYC was last above freezing, temps hovering about 20 degrees, the wind-chill often making it worse. NYC public schools are actually closed today, because of snow storm that is on the way. So yes, weather is getting to us.
Last week, Husband went out to walk dog in the morning. When he came back in I asked the now usual question “How is it out?” / To which he replied, “Not bad. No wind.” I checked the temp. 16 degrees. Real feel. 16 degrees. We had gotten to the point where 16 felt good. Seriously.
Are we stupid?
But- we naturally learn to adjust to our surroundings, whatever they may be. If you don’t adapt, well, you’re not going to do well. Adapt or die.
Adapting to your environment is an essential skill. You get a new boss at work that you don’t like. You have two options: adapt to the new style of management or quit and get another job. Both of these require adapting, to changing your outlook, habits and environment. I mean, you could stay in the same job with a boss you hate and not change anything, but what is going to come out of that? Are you going to be miserable every day? Is your work going to suffer? Are you going to get fired? Will this situation at work negatively effect every aspect of your life?
The only constant is that things change. Every day brings new and different challenges. My in laws hate using the internet. They think it’s a fad and it’s stupid. Ok fine. They are entitled to their opinions. But when they need to buy something like a plane ticket? They want to just call and find out information. Now, anyone who has tried to book a plane ticket knows that the best and easiest way to do this is to go online. But they refuse. They call up the airline. They sit on hold for hours. They finally get the information. They are told that it costs more money to book over the phone. They hang up and call my Husband and ask him to book the tickets. Did they adapt? I guess you could say they did. But what if my Husband wasn’t around? The solution can’t always be to get someone else to do your work. Sometimes the solution is to figure it out and learn a new way. The solution is to adapt to the new reality.
What if you don’t like the way something is going? Should you adapt?
Here’s the thing- you should never do something you are not comfortable with. you should never conform for conformity sake. But you have to choose your battles wisely. Is the stand you’re taking really worth the effort. Is my in-laws refusal to use the internet ridiculous, or is it them being them. Cause remember, at the end of the day, they still used the internet to buy their tickets, they just didn’t do it themselves. And they wasted a whole bunch of time, and got needlessly frustrated.
So I guess my convoluted point is this: Figure out how to best live your life while realizing that things are constantly in flux. One of my mottos is- It’s nice to visit the past, but you don’t want to move there. You can’t go back, you can only go forward, and you have to figure out how to make things work for you. You have to adapt.