As I wrapped presents yesterday, my first thought was “Did I buy my daughter enough?” Seriously. Pile of boxes and gift bags, and I thought, is it enough?
My Mom left me a voicemail the other day. Christmas is at my house this year, which means I’ll be cooking. You know- cooking a meal, like I do pretty much every day. She asked my if I was buying food. She actually left me a voicemail saying “Are you buying food for Christmas Day?”
Last night I attended the Winter Concert at my daughter’s school. A packed auditorium showcased beautiful, talented children playing their instruments and singing. Smiling and laughing. A room full of parents beamed with pride, a tear or two shed, as we watched our amazing children.
Tomorrow, my family and I will head to Fifth and Sixth Avenues in NYC to see all the beautiful decorations. The city is perfection in December- all sparkly and festive and magical. There is also this ridiculous bakery right near Rock Center that makes this chocolate icebox cake that is dream worthy.
What am I saying with this odd assortment of anecdotes? I am very lucky. My Mother may be crazy, but she’s there. My Daughter is healthy and amazing and doesn’t ask for much. My husband is a pretty decent guy. I am content. I am blissfully happy the whole month of December, and the other 11 months are pretty good too.
But then I read the blogs of some of my blog friends. As I was sick last week, I’ve been sort of playing catch up. Some of my blog friends, well, they’re not so good right now. And I’m sure I pass people on the street that are not so good right now. I know there are many people who struggle during the holiday season. I wish it weren’t so, but there you have it.
This is one of those powerless moments for me. I am really not qualified to help anyone. All I can do is tell people that I’m thinking of them during this rough patch, that they are in my thoughts and prayers. It’s all I can do.
No one has a perfect life. No one actually lives on their Pinterest page. When you read someone’s Holiday Letter, remember all the things that they are leaving out- they’re just spinning the highlight reel. Every single person goes through something in their lives. No one gets a free pass from grief or depression or just plain bad luck. We all suffer in some way. But we need to soldier on. Because that’s what life is: tunneling through the shit to find the gold.
But sometimes we need help, we need someone to hand us the shovel. Please go to a qualified shovel specialist. There are people out there that can and will help. Know that there really are people who care.
And to everyone else- remember- sometimes all that’s needed is a kind word. Sometimes telling someone that you are there is enough. Remind yourself that everyone else might not be as happy as you are. A little kindness goes a long way.
So my holiday wish to you all is simple.
Know that you matter.
Know that everyone matters.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday!
Peace and Joy to you all!!!