Ok-many of you will find this controversial…..
Many of the women I know posted “me too” on their social media platforms. This is logical, because every woman I have ever met has been a victim of sexual harassment or assault at some point in their life. It borders from disrespected to horrific in the terms of experience and none of these stories should be taken lightly. We are all victims. We should rally around one another and know that we are not alone- whether or not you want to publically share your story. Everyone has the right to discuss, or not to discuss anything they want. I applaud those able to share, and I silently commiserate and nod to the ones who don’t want to share. It’s personal choice.
Women have just exposed themselves. Again.
When are the men going to take responsibility for their actions?
When we women make them.
So here’s my plan. I think every women goes to her husband, her father, her son, her uncle, her brother and makes sure that they all know what harassment and assault are- because chances are, they have all harassed/assaulted a women in their lives. The men in the news did not harass/assault every women in the world. This was done by fathers, brothers, uncles and sons. I think the definition should be loud and clear. Cat calling is harassment. Saying nice ass at a bar is harassment. looking down at a woman at work is harassment. Anything other than yes, what we are doing is acceptable, is assault. No is no- end of discussion. I don’t think men get the definition. I don’t think they understand that we are not dolls that can be manipulated and over powered. They don’t get it.
We must make them understand.
We must make sure the definition is loud and clear.
And we should make them pay for their actions. My original thought was that every man should post on social media “I harass” or “I assault” or “I abuse my power as a man”. My husband pointed out that no man is going to do this out of fear of getting sued. So I was up all night revising my plan. (not really- I thought of it before I went to bed) Make men pay.
Have every man you know (because let’s face it- if every woman has been involved, I’m going with every man has too- let’s me fair and equal about this) donate money to a cause for women.
Have every man make a donation to a charity that helps women in crisis. Because when you donate money, it becomes real. It becomes a tangible, tactile thing. As they are writing a check or entering a credit card or putting bills into a collection- they are owning their misdeeds. They are admitting that they are part of the problem. We must figure out how to make everyone part of the solution. And maybe with the money, we can help some women in need.