Text from the Husband on discussing vacation plans:
Husband: Can we stop by nephew’s camp? It’s on way- maybe a quick lunch?
It is not your imagination. There really is nothing typed. Because I didn’t respond. Because this isn’t really “asking” me something. this is telling me something. This is telling me something the Husband knows I don’t want to do, but really, how bad a person am I if I say no?
So before you hand me a verdict on “guilty”- lets really look at my case:
- I am a strong believer in yearly family vacation (it is one thing my parents did that I thought was a great experience)
- Family trip does not need to be long, expensive or exotic
- Family trip includes only members of the immediate family.
- We have a rule that unless a trip is done to specifically see a friend or family member, we do not visit anyone. We came up with this rule while prepping for a trip to California and realized that we had more friends/family there than we had days on the trip. To have seen everyone would have been unrealistic, and we didn’t want to choose one person over another.
- We are not a spontaneous lot- we’re those irksome planner types. I have a pretty solid idea of what we will be doing on each day of the trip.
- This trip involves multiple destinations. When planning out the trip, I have taken into consideration driving distances and scheduled activities.
- On the day we are driving to destination D (supposedly near the camp) we will have been on a college tour that morning. I know we will not be in the vicinity of the camp till past lunch.
- The camp is not really “on the way”- it is at least an hour west from the road we need to be on- putting us way off schedule by about 4 hours (if you can’t tell- I don’t like to be off schedule)
- My nephews are 8 and 12. They are at a camp that they love. When we do see them in real life, it is from behind there cell phones because in the real world- apps rule relatives drool. Seriously, do they really want to leave, I don’t know swimming and fun, to spend an hour with Uncle Dufus and Aunt Sarcasm? When they never actually talk to us anyway?
- On the day we leave destination D, we are heading to Destination E, and shockingly, another college visit- which has a scheduled time. It is not logical to try and visit them.
- I know the Husband does not really care about visiting the boys. I know it is his sister goading him- guilting him into not “caring about the family” (but wait- there are at least 15 blogs in that relationship- so I’m stopping at that)
- I have literally been planning this trip for 4 months. (I don’t mean every day- I mean in general)- why was this question posed 3 days before departure?
As of right now- I don’t know what we’re doing. I don’t like that the Husband has put me in this position, and I have told him that. (People in relationships – think about what you are asking of your partner, and always tell your partner when you are annoyed and what you are annoyed at- this is relationship 101)
So: What’s the verdict?