Apparently, a remake of “Dirty Dancing” was made.  I saw a commercial.  I saw some of the stars being interviewed.  What I did not see was the actual remake.  I refused on the grounds of….I just don’t want to.

I remember when the original came out.  I loved that movie.  I thought it was an amazing coming of age story.  You watched Baby learn how to navigate an adult world, toeing the line between being a teen age daughter and becoming an independent adult.  It also gave the viewer a glimpse into the historic cultural changes that were about to hit in the 1960s.

Debra Messing portrays the Mother in the remake.  I saw her interviewed.  I love Debra Messing as an actress.  She is funny and warm and intelligent, and she starred in on of my favorite all time sitcoms.  But when she talked about how you were going to see much more of the mothers story…….stop.  Stop right there.  This isn’t about the mother.  It’s about Baby becoming Francis.  That was the beauty of it.

So watching the remake was never going to happen.

I couldn’t help but wonder: why remake this movie?  This movie that people adore?

Can something become more iconic?

Or are we just trying to recreate a perfect experience?

Sometimes things need to remain a memory.  Sometimes things need to remain in the past.  There are no do overs.

When life gets tough, we often think back to “the good old days”.  We look at old pictures, watch video, reread journals…..anything to bring us to a better place.  We want to recreate the good feelings that we had.  But you can’t recreate an exact moment, an exact feeling.  A unique set of circumstances happened in a unique order to create a singular experience.  A guy walks into a room exactly when you turn your head…..Love at first sight.  You can never remake that specific moment.  That specific feeling.

You can’t remake your innocence.

The reason past experiences seem so much better is because we viewed them with less mature eyes.  Getting older is simply adding more life experience to our bodies, to our minds, to our hearts.  As each day passes we may suddenly understand something better, form a new hypothesis.  Conversely, things could get a little more confusing, add new questions to our already overloaded circuits.

We can’t remake our memories because we are no longer the people we were.


Remember the past

Plan for the future

Live in the present






4 thoughts on “You Can’t Remake Your Youth

  1. Good call on not watching it. I found it irritating, to say the least. I never had a great fascination with the original movie, but even I know that some things shouldn’t be messed with. Ugh. It was terrible. I’ve read a lot of reviews, and none of them has mentioned the terrible wardrobe in the remake. Oh, poor Abigail Breslin looked just awful. 😦


      1. If you want to see some photos, this is a good place to look

        I haven’t been able to find a photo of Baby and Johnny when they were dancing at the hotel. Jennifer Grey was wearing this sexy little red number. Abigail Breslin was wearing a light green chiffon dress that looked like it belonged in a prom at a conservative Christian school. Really bizarre.

        I agree that the casting was bad. Abigail Breslin is a good actor, and nothing in this movie showed that. Wasn’t a fan of Debra Messing or Bruce Greenwood either. But I thought Sarah Hyland did a good job. She’s a better actor than I had realized.

        Too bad. They had a lot to live up to.

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